What is Matebaiting?

I’m a matchmaker, therefore I see the good and the bad of dating, men and women both. Clients come to me to find the perfect person for them. That one special guy or girl that makes them fall in love, along with the happily ever after. 

My clients do date, frequently, and they are looking for long-term relationships that eventually lead to marriage and having a family. That’s why they come to me.  I often find that my clients have their own specific list of what they want; Ivy League, secure financially, loves dogs, etc. and that they are looking to check all those boxes in a mate. 

Before they’ve come to me, they have dated people who promise exactly what they want, but somehow never deliver on the promise, and they’re baffled.

So, I have coined a term I call “matebaiting.” Matebaiting means exactly that, they are dating and baiting the other person with exactly what the other person says they want. For example, maybe you go on a first date and outline all your “must haves” over dinner. There may be some chemistry and on the second date, isn’t it funny how the other person suddenly mentions, “hey I want to get married and have kids, soon as well.” Or hey, “I love camping and Indian food, and I’m looking for a committed relationship right now, too.”  

In other words, they are matebaiting. Finding out what you want and then telling you exactly what you want to hear about a long-term relationship. These people, it can be a man or woman, are not really interested in long-term, they’re just manipulating the situation. 

Often, especially for women, marriage and children is the ultimate goal, and guys know that. So be careful about revealing too much in your online profile, or in social media, or on a first or second date. There’s a lot of fish in the sea, don’t get matebaited! 

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Scam-Detector: Dating Traps: A Spread Between 'Matebaiting' and Fake Identities

Dating is fun, but sometimes it comes with the most unpleasant surprises. That includes cases when the person you thought you know is in fact someone else. We thought we'd try to get deeper into the intricate world of dating scams.

We're not talking about the classic - by now - online dating fake profiles asking for money after the relationship takes off. We connected with two of the most reputable elite professional matchmakers in North America to share their thoughts: Bonnie Winston and Susan Trombetti.

Both of them work with celebrities and have experienced enough to know what could raise a red flag.

Winston has coined a term called matebaiting. What is it? “Crooks are dating and baiting the other person with exactly what they say they want. Let me explain”, says our expert, the founder of BonnieWinstonMatchmaker.com.

“Let's say you go on a first date and outline all your must-haves during dinner. There may be some chemistry and on the second date the other person suddenly mentions, You know what, I want to get married and have kids soon, as well. Or something like: Hey, I love Indian food and camping. I’m looking for a committed relationship, as well.”

“In other words, they are matebaiting. Finding out what you want and then telling you exactly what you want to hear about a long-term relationship. These people, it can be a man or woman, are not really interested in long-term, they’re just manipulating the situation.”

“Often, especially for women, marriage and children is the ultimate goal, and guys know that. So be careful about revealing too much in your online profile, or in social media, or on a first or second date.“, advises Winston.

“Sometimes the person using these practices hides a very dark past. I was introduced once to a very attractive man, full of charisma, smarts and spirit. I was surprised to find out he was never married or in a long serious relationship, but I decided to consider representing him, not before doing some research.”

“It took me a while, but I discovered that this guy had spent seven years in jail for a $750,000 money laundering scheme... Would you trust him?”, says Winston.

“Make sure you go on the Internet and spend quite a bit of time looking for your prospect. You'd be surprised how much stuff you can find, especially nowadays. Sure, not everything online might be true, but when you find a mugshot as I did in the case I just told you about, you know that's a big issue. Also, don't be afraid to run a background check if you really like the person and consider a future with him or her”.

Originally published on scam-detector.com

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